When we get back with abusive men, and let me talk about trauma bonding for a moment first, trauma bonding simply means that if two people have shared a highly emotional experience together, it gives them a unique bond and perhaps even a false sense of a depth of bond and a false sense of shared history. The more intense the experiences the more deeply it could be said to burn into a person’s unconscious, so if you compare a pleasant evening out between a nice couple, where they go and they have a nice meal, and then they go to the cinema and then they come back, and they have quiet but nice sex for 15-20 minutes and go to sleep in each other’s arms. That’s all very nice and it’s very lovely.
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